Comparing Yourself? How To Stop and Keep Going

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Do you compare yourself to others, and wonder why you even should keep going?

Been there, done that. And it’s no fun!

Comparing Yourself Can Bring You Down

My Solutions For Comparing Yourself

When you start feeling overwhelmed by jealousy or the comparison gremlins, you know it’s time to change your environment.

For me, that means logging off Facebook, and getting off-line from the Internet too. It’s really easy to get into comparison mode when you’re immersed in this online world that we all work in.

Jane just pulled off a great launch, Sandy has amazing videos, Annie has great personal branding and photos, and Simone has a great website with really top notch copywriting… The list goes on.

Or maybe you feel like someone else has the same message that you have the offer, so you start asking yourself if you should even bother…

Trust me, you’re not alone in feeling this way.

The key is to switch off this comparison and anxiety as soon as you start to feel it creeping in.

One of the best ways to do that is to get back into action, and stop looking at all these other people who are doing similar things or making you feel bad.

That might mean that you need to get back to work on the project you keep putting off, or work on something where you feel like you’re truly in your element and being your creative self.

That could be writing or designing, working on your next launch plan, getting on the phone with a client or whatever it is that you provide in the world.

Take The Focus Off Yourself

The second thing is that you need to remember why you’re in business in the first place. It’s not about you, you’re sure to serve and to help other people one way or another.

Every minute you spend worrying about how other people are doing better than you are, is a minute that you’re not serving or helping your ideal clients and customers.

Another way to reset yourself is to move your body. For me going for a walk does a lot of good, especially if you can get out in nature where you can reconnect with your roots without feeling like you’re stuck in this tech bubble that we all live in.

Another thing that works great are dance breaks, or anything that really gets your heart rate going.

There is no shortage of ways to help you get back in the zone, you just need to get good at discerning when these comparison blues take over so that you can nip them in the bud.

One of the things that I’ve definitely found to be true is that each of us has something to offer in this world, we just need to get clear on what that is, who needs to receive it from us, and the rest can really start to take care of itself.

People connect differently with different people, and that’s why it’s totally okay to have a bunch of different people teaching what could be essentially the same materials. Why it’s okay to have thousands of different jewelry designers, because everyone has a different style in a different way of putting together their creations.

So don’t let the comparison monster keep you out of action. Get back in the ring and focus on your own goals.

5 Comments

  1. Claire Stone on July 4, 2013 at 4:22 am

    Ahhhh, yes. Thank you Nathalie.

    I’ve been having a really hard time of comparison recently – I was copied in the worst way, and been spending the past weeks comparing myself to the copy-er, who, it seems, is doing a better job than myself. This video has totally made me realise that I doing a good job, and that it’s important for me to keep going at what I do and be really focussed on who needs to hear it.
    I feel like crying now!
    thank you



  2. Nathalie Lussier on July 4, 2013 at 4:37 am

    Aww Claire, I hope this helps you realize no one can copy you – the real you. But I’m sorry to hear you’ve been copied in the worst way, and sending you so much love!



  3. Claire Stone on July 4, 2013 at 5:19 am

    Thank you! I hadn’t quite realised how hard it had hit me, but your video made me realise that I’ve been focussing on feeling rubbish, and now I need to focus on the reason I am a nutritionist – to help people feel better. It doesn’t matter who is copying me (it’s not like nutrition is revolutionary anyway!) but what does matter is that I focus on the people I want to help, not on the people who are ‘better’ thank me!



  4. Tracy Hall on July 4, 2013 at 8:13 am

    Hi Nathalie

    This is such a timely reminder! My site is still quite new and I have a list as long as my arm for all the work I want to do, and improvements I want to make. Seeing how everyone else is tracking can lead me to feel a bit behind the game. But when I feel like this, I remind myself that even if it is new, I have launched, and am posting every week!

    I want to thank you for the part you’ve played in helping me get it all moving forward. Our Skype session helped focus me on what I wanted to write about and how I wanted to do it, and the tech training you offer (especially the bonus modules in RHH B-School!) have really got me working on this after years of just dreaming about it. I’ve travelled from Australia to be in Portland for the WDS and sure hope I get to bump into you.

    See you in a few days!

    Cheers
    Tracy



  5. Sheri McNally on December 16, 2014 at 12:54 pm

    Great post Nathalie! I suffer from comparisonitis too. I love how you remind the reader that we all have something unique to offer the world. Best of health to you!