Making The Most Of Life

Making The Most Of Life
If this is the life you’ve been given, then learning ways to making the most of life has got to be at the top of the priority list.

One of the biggest obstacles to living life to the fullest is stopping yourself, or pushing off your happiness into the future. Let’s talk about a mythical place called limbo and how to get out of there when you’re stuck.

You’ve heard of living in limbo right?

It’s that place where you’re not quite where you want to be yet, in your business or your life. For example, maybe you’re renting an apartment and it’s temporary so you decide not to decorate or really get too comfortable.

Or, you have a website that’s just okay – it does the job – but you know that you’re getting it redone soon so you stop blogging or sending people to it.

Or maybe your personal version of limbo is that you’ve been working with a handful of clients as a contractor or freelancer but what you really want to be doing is creating programs and products but you’re not there yet, so you keep working as a limbo-bound contractor.

I feel like many people who are in their early 20s get caught up in limbo.

That feeling that everything is a “for now” situation can really wear you down and make you feel helpless sometimes. Let’s see how we can ditch limbo by making the most of life right now.

The Cure for Being in Limbo

So what’s the cure for living and working in limbo?

The solution is to start taking care of what you have and where you are right now, as if it was exactly where you want to be.

It’s kind of amazing what happens when you put down roots and make yourself at home, even if you do plan to move out in the near future.

Even though you might not stay in one place for many years, it’s worth living in a place that makes you feel at home.

The same goes for your business, your products, and even your team.

Even if you don’t plan on being a freelancer forever, how can you put the right systems, contracts, and packages together to really rock at being a freelancer?

Even if you’re not planning on staying in the industry you’re in, why not go to the conferences and events and get known within this industry so you can really own what you’re doing right now?

Sometimes we can feel like we’re on this high speed train to tomorrow-ville, where everything is going to better once we arrive.

But let’s not forget that limbo is a place too, and if that’s how you feel right now, the simple act of being grateful and taking care of your current life is what will catapult you to new heights faster.

Take my web design background: when I first took up web design as a business again (after my short stint in high school) I knew that it wasn’t my forever business.

Web design could have been my limbo, it could have made me feel stuck or like I should be done with it already.

But instead, I focused on serving my clients and working with the best people, doing my best work, and really rocking it.

It didn’t take long for me to see how I could carve out space for new products and offerings out of this gratitude and focus on “what is”.

My Call To Arms for Making The Most Of Life

So here is my call to arms for you today: make a list of the things in your life that really feel like “limbo” to you.

Then, find ways to appreciate them for what they are, to upgrade them if you can, and to really nurture this state of limbo that you’re in.

For example, if you’ve been using the same broken umbrella for years and you complain every time you need to use it…why not upgrade it to a new umbrella? Take the 15 minutes aside to fix it, or appreciate it the next time you’re caught in the rain.

I promise these types of small fixes in your life will lead to bigger changes, especially if you feel like you’ve been stuck in limbo for awhile.

What Are Your Tips For Making The Most Of Life?

Now I’d LOVE to know what you consider to be really “limbo” for you. Is it your work, the types of projects you take on, your wardrobe, your car?

28 Comments

  1. Lisa Rees on April 30, 2014 at 9:45 am

    As I have been making big changes in my life over the 8 months like going back to university and more recently starting my own business I feel like I am in limbo with everything after watching this video and I need to make the most of where I am now and decide how I can progress. Thanks



    • Nathalie Lussier on April 30, 2014 at 12:25 pm

      I totally hear you Lisa! Starting a business and going back to university are definitely things that can make us feel in limbo.

      In fact, I think running a business leads to a very limbo-like existence since we’re often perpetually working on that next project. :)



  2. Nancy on April 30, 2014 at 9:47 am

    I’m the Queen of limboland I think ! In all areas of my life … it feels good to just recognize it. As soon as I post this comment, I will do the list of all my limbo things ! Better plan an hour to do that ! Thank you for inspiring and sharing Nathalie !



    • Nathalie Lussier on April 30, 2014 at 12:25 pm

      Go Nancy! If you get overwhelmed, just start with the first few items before moving onto the next ones. :)



  3. Steve Szubert on April 30, 2014 at 9:58 am

    Great advice, Nathalie.

    My most recent “limbo” was having too many projects on the go at the same time … all of them end up stuck. And of course the answer is to focus on just one or two main things and really make them rock. I’m starting to get there with that one.

    Another “limbo” we all go through at times is being “stuck” in a crappy job. Even then , it pays to follow this advice and do that job in a way that rocks. Not for the benefit of the crappy employer, but for our own benefit – we soon become the type of person who is desired by better employers, and away we go :)

    I have all your 30-day challenge emails, sitting in a folder. Now that I’m out of “limbo” and more focused, I can start actually doing the challenge. Looking forward to some results that rock.



    • Nathalie Lussier on April 30, 2014 at 1:15 pm

      I totally hear you Steve, and we’ve often got plenty of projects on the go too – and it comes down to focusing and having priorities, too. :)

      Here’s to having you kick limbo to the curb!



  4. Sonja Jobson on April 30, 2014 at 10:06 am

    Love the video, Nathalie! It’s so easy to get stuck where you are, just waiting for “things to get better”. We can miss out on so many opportunities popping up in the meantime.

    My limbo right now would definitely be my business – I’m in the middle of completing a major shift from offering my current services, to launching new program-based products. All the changes are still “behind the scenes”, so it’s easy to get impatient waiting for everything to fall into place. Thanks for the inspiration in your video today.



    • Nathalie Lussier on April 30, 2014 at 1:16 pm

      Ahhh Sonja, I hear you on “the outside of your business doesn’t reflect the inside” – it’s definitely a tough place to be.



  5. Sharon on April 30, 2014 at 10:23 am

    GREAT message today and one I desperately needed to hear! Mine is my home. Love your weekly missives! I get so much out of them :-)



    • Nathalie Lussier on April 30, 2014 at 1:17 pm

      So happy to hear you enjoy these Sharon! And yes, our home is so important to our wellbeing and productivity so I can definitely see that. :)



  6. Marsha from YesYesMarsha.com on April 30, 2014 at 10:41 am

    Wah, i LOVED this video!! I’ve never heard anyone talk about this subject before, and it’s SO relevant to me!

    My website is…fine, but I think ugly. Even the main photo on there is my ‘limbo’ photo, until I put my new one up!

    And my day-to-day still involves bits of freelancing I took on before I started my business. Sometimes, I feel a bit resentful about doing them – but I’m going to take your advice and really put my all in! I just got hit with two deadlines I was scowling about so, once again, your timing is PERFECT! Thank you!!



    • Nathalie Lussier on April 30, 2014 at 1:18 pm

      Limbo websites, limbo photos, and limbo freelancing work – been there on all 3 counts. :) It gets easier to move through things when you’re fully making the most of what you’ve got, and I know you can do it. :)



  7. Sandra Fremgen on April 30, 2014 at 12:22 pm

    This was such a great video, thanks Nathalie!

    I”m a working designer during the day and at night I work on my personal project Panda and Me (www.PandaandMe.com). It’s hard balancing the two AND have a life. My husband and I are in limbo on when to start a family. I know it will take me away from my art even more. However, if I stop and appreciate what I have right now, things are really good!

    Thanks!



    • Nathalie Lussier on April 30, 2014 at 1:19 pm

      I love your realization Sandra that what you have right now is really good! I can also relate on the starting a family piece, on top of the business aspirations. :)



  8. Akirah on April 30, 2014 at 1:21 pm

    I loved this video Nathalie. I’ve really been challenging myself to settle in to the season of life I’m in right now and to make the most of it, instead of allowing discontentment to take over. I’ve noticed a real shift in the opportunities that come my way, all because I’ve shifted my attitude. It really is a powerful thing.



    • Nathalie Lussier on May 1, 2014 at 10:48 am

      Yes Akirah! It’s amazing what happens when she shift our intentions and focus – things around us start to change too! :)



  9. MelAnn on April 30, 2014 at 1:26 pm

    I’m on this side of a launch that has been long overdue in arriving! Been bogged down in a ton of tedious crap that quite frankly I just don’t enjoy doing! :) I’ve had to put things I love doing on backburner – all waiting for this launch to happen!

    Second thing is wardrobe – It’s my next “thing” to totally overhaul and create something that just really expresses me and who I am! I HATE shopping so again – put off the wardrobe thing because of bogged down in the shopping list and getting it done etc.



    • Nathalie Lussier on May 1, 2014 at 10:49 am

      Ahh Melann, I don’t like shopping either so you’re not alone in that aspect of things. I’ve been loving Stitch Fix for forcing myself to try out different styles and clothes, and it’s not as time consuming as regular shopping is. ;)



  10. lisa | renovating italy on May 1, 2014 at 4:31 am

    Website and income limbo for me, I’m slowly doing what i can for my website on the tech side, yep following your 30 days and doing B-School. Gaining clarity….actually I’m not in limbo now I think about it, I’m moving slowly in multiple directions…..stretching!

    Thanks for the clarity Nathalie xx
    ciao lisa



    • Nathalie Lussier on May 1, 2014 at 10:50 am

      Yay for stretching Lisa – and some of others who commented here are also in the website and income limbo land. Recognizing it is the first step to changing things! :)



  11. Jo on May 1, 2014 at 6:06 am

    I really needed to hear this! Thank you so much. I realise I have been wishing my life away living for a future that I’m not creating! No wonder I’m in limbo. Too little living in the moment and not enough ‘as if it was so”.
    My home isn’t selling (no wonder even I don’t like the neutral decor), I’m frightened to pursue BSchool (what if my idea won’t work: I don’t have any others. Yikes!) and my health – a nagging hip pain that I’ve been ignoring. I read somewhere that hip problems relate to a fear of moving forward/feeling there’s nothing to move forward to… Crikey.
    You have been my wonderful wake-up call. I feel so inspired to grab the moment – and start living as if. I want to thank you so much for the insights and fantastic advice you provide. You’re a star – long may you continue to shine brightly. Jo



    • Nathalie Lussier on May 1, 2014 at 11:06 am

      Oh wow, your insights about your hip and moving forward feel spot on. I’m so glad you’re recognizing and acknowledging these things, and I would recommend checking out my friend Laura Hames Franklin – she has videos on hips and healing things: http://laurahamesfranklin.com/



  12. Catherine Ami on May 1, 2014 at 7:42 am

    I’ve feel like I’ve been in limbo for over a year now. I’ve been so hesitant to reach out to make contacts with others in my field because I’m currently living in Japan. My husband and I have been planning on moving back to the US for over a year now but were in the process of getting his VISA and doing everything needed for such a move. Anyway, I suppose it’s never to early to reach out. :) Thank you for the push, Natalie.



    • Nathalie Lussier on May 1, 2014 at 11:07 am

      Absolutely Catherine! Moving is one of those things that leads to limbo easily – but I think the sooner you can reach out to people and get things moving, the better, for sure. :)



  13. Matt on May 1, 2014 at 10:41 am

    Hi Nathalie,

    I have been feeling in limbo ever since quitting my job in January. I have been feeling frustrated and struggling to find any sort of path. All I have (or had) were big dreams about wanting to study and live abroad.
    Recently I’ve been focusing and learning more about mindfulness, and appreciating the present for what it is. So, I’ve decided to launch into finding some volunteer work in the field I’m interested in. This will (hopefully!) lend me more experience as well as be a step in the right direction towards employment and study later. It’s almost like paving a road that start beneath my feet, one brick at a time, rather than trying to launch into a future that doesn’t exist yet.
    Thanks for all you do!



    • Nathalie Lussier on May 1, 2014 at 11:08 am

      Matt, you’re so insightful – I love where you’re going with this and your analogy too! It does need to start beneath your feet – excited for you and your new gig! :)



  14. Lori on May 13, 2014 at 9:39 am

    Yes, I wrote a book and published it on Kindle. Now, I am in limbo because I am scared to market the book! I feel so silly admitting that…but it is freeing too. Nathalie….I love the work you do! Thank you for this post!



    • Nathalie Lussier on May 14, 2014 at 11:43 am

      You’re so welcome Lori! And what’s the link? We’d love to check it out. :)