How To Get Over FOMO

How To Get Over FOMO

FOMO: fear of missing out.

You’re always going to see other people doing great things in their business or personal lives, especially in our hyper connected world. But let’s face it, the only way to move forward with your life is to put your blinders on because you can’t be in several places at any one time. (That we know of!)

Does this sound familiar? When you’re working on your current business project, you’re wondering about the other idea you haven’t implemented yet…

Or when you’re working, you’re wondering what your friends are up to and when you’re with your friends or family, you think about work.

Oy, talk about stressful!

Here’s how to get over FOMO

Trust yourself. The decisions you made at the start of the year, month, or week are the right ones… you just need to keep putting one foot in front of the other, and not worry about the things you might be missing because of your decisions.

The root of the word “decide” is to cut off or kill, and in order to run a business or live in our digital world we’re constantly making decisions that cut off other alternatives or distractions. That means we need to learn to say no without feeling guilty

It’s easy to look longingly at other people’s party photos online and wish that you were there instead of working on your next launch…

And there are endless online summits and in person events that you’re not a part of… it’s a lot harder to keep your eyes on your own path.

But it’s also more rewarding to get some momentum and traction in your business, and to be able to stop thinking about business when you’re with the ones you love.

Sometimes you do have to make sacrifices in the name of entrepreneurship, but the good thing is that you’re the boss. You decide which projects to prioritize, which events to attend, and who you want to spend your time with.

Realize that you’ll probably always suffer from FOMO: plan for it by reminding yourself why you’re on this path in the first place.

Kick FOMO To The Curb With This Exercise

Now I have a simple exercise for you to do, to help kick “fear of missing out” to the curb.

1. Write down everything you’re currently doing, and anything you’d like to be doing… this includes both business and personal activities. Include ideas, places you want to be featured, travel, you name it.

This might take awhile, so set a timer for 10 minutes so you know there’s an end in sight.

2. Now, go through your list and remove things that sound good in theory but you recognize aren’t ideal for “right now”. Maybe they’re projects or trips that you can see yourself doing in 6 months, or next year.

3. Go through your list again and put a star beside the items that light you up the most.

4. Take one last pass through the list and pick your top 5 out of the starred items. Write them down on a new piece of paper, and make sure that there’s a nice mix of personal and business…

Now you’ve got a solid plan of action, that’s going to help eliminate FOMO and keep you honest about what matters most to you.

How to get over FOMO… In Your Experience!

Over to you now… what have you learned about your personal brand of FOMO? Do you like to jump from idea to idea? Party to party? Or are you more easily distracted by other people’s escapades?

Leave a comment below, and share any tips you’ve found for dealing with fear of missing out!

15 Comments

  1. Catharine Hay on August 5, 2015 at 12:16 pm

    I suffer from serious FOMO, thinking this seminar, webinar, teleseminar, video, etc. might be the one that changes everything. To combat this, I have created an Excel file with a list of my top 10 projects and the steps needed to complete them. This keeps me focused on what is important for me to accomplish in my business right now to move it forward.



    • Nathalie Lussier on August 5, 2015 at 3:37 pm

      Oh yeah, I totally hear you – the online space has tons of stuff to create FOMO. Love that you’ve got your top 10 projects front and center. :)



  2. Natalie on August 5, 2015 at 12:51 pm

    LOVE this [+ the amazing excercise]. I struggle with FOMO a lot, but find peace and clarity when I make the time to go back and look at my goals – personal and business. For instance, I’m trying to grow my business, but I have some serious wanderlust (ALWAYS. I am a Sagittarius- never still for long). I know I can’t do it ALL, so I tell myself to focus on my business first (for the time being), and when I have more time, energy, and money – I can travel to my heart’s desire. I’d rather whole-ass a few things vs. half-ass multiple things (quality over quantity)….because the ultimate goal with anything (personal or business!) is to be living FULLY in the moment…always. And FOMO can definitely kill that.



    • Nathalie Lussier on August 5, 2015 at 3:36 pm

      I totally agree that it’s better to be “all in” on a few things, than “half in” for way too many things. Thank you for sharing! :)



  3. Catarina on August 5, 2015 at 2:17 pm

    Balancing workaholic tendencies with downtime… You’re speaking my language Natalie! My FOMO is the strongest as it relates to hearing about travel escapades. Re-connecting with my WHY is my go to strategy and it’s one of the key things I coach my changemakers through. Lose sight of it and we get snatched by the burnout monster. Been there and it’s not pretty!



  4. Catarina on August 5, 2015 at 2:29 pm

    Oops – I hit “post” prematurely Nathalie as I went to attend to my toddler. Talk about balancing workaholic tendencies with downtime… Here’s the full comment (face palm):

    My FOMO is strongest as it relates to hearing about travel escapades. Reconnecting with my WHY is the my go to strategy and it’s one of the key things I coach my changemakers through. Lost sight of it and we get snatched by the burnout monster. Been there and it’s not pretty! Another strategy is to ask myself “would I still want to do this if no one else was doing it?” When it’s a no the FOMO sirens go off. Cheers!



    • Nathalie Lussier on August 5, 2015 at 3:35 pm

      Ooh that’s a great question Catarina – would you still want to do it if no one else was. Powerful!



  5. Rob on August 5, 2015 at 5:57 pm

    fight FOMO with FOMO “Focus On My Objectives” I just came up with that during your vid. My FOMO became epidemic very early in life and morphed into S.O.S.(shiny object syndrome)which has sometimes paid off with great opportunities and also cost me heaps in distraction, procrastination,indecision, overwhelm and Frustration.Thank you, great tip xx



    • Nathalie Lussier on August 6, 2015 at 11:10 am

      Ooh I like turning FOMO into a new way of focusing, instead. Love it Rob!



    • Drew on September 9, 2015 at 3:22 am

      Oh, I hear ya!

      What about FOMO – Fear Of Missing Objectives.



  6. Franquias Baratas on August 6, 2015 at 3:42 pm

    I suffer a lot of FOMO, but I’m improving. But that disrupts my routine, but I know I’ll win.

    Thanks for sharing.



  7. Sasha on August 10, 2015 at 4:01 pm

    Thanks Nathalie! I suffer tremendously from FOMO, so this is very helpful. I believe constantly connecting to social media contributes to FOMO. I am currently in an experiment of only connecting to social media twice a day, for a focused 15-30 mins.



  8. Alexandra on August 12, 2015 at 12:35 pm

    Perfect post, came in just on time for some reorganization :)Thanks a lot



  9. Thedore Nwangene on August 20, 2015 at 4:42 pm

    Hello Nathalie,
    I love your site. I looks so professional and simple also, your writing is astonishing :). Keep it up please.

    Seriously, this the first time I’m hearing of the acronym FOMO which i think was originated from you.

    I can very well relate to everything you said here. Its usually very discouraging and heart breaking when you see people especially those you think you’re better than or are equal to achieving things you haven’t achieved yet.

    However, this feeling can really put you in a psychological trauma if care is not taken.

    I think we should always turn these feelings to our advantage and that is by seeing such situations as a motivation to work more smarter.

    Thanks for sharing Nath, i will be sticking around :).



  10. Veronica Bower on November 3, 2015 at 11:03 am

    I am definitely a jumper! My husband says that if I am in a public place, within 20 minutes I will have met 50 people! Thats part of my problem….I have so many ideas, but I get overwhelmed with so many ideas!