Go From No Clarity To Lucid Living Without Being Seen As Another Dreamer

Lucid Living

You have big dreams, but not enough clarity to get there. Here’s how to live into them without being just another dreamer.

I love dreaming up big things. But I’m not just a dreamer, I’m also a doer.

One thing that can keep you stuck in dreamland without any results to show for it, is not having enough clarity.

You might know how you want to feel or what you want things to look like, but you don’t quite know how to get from point A to point B.

So you put your thinking cap on, and you try to figure it out. You might even draw it out, and come up with tons of great ideas and plans… but at the end of the day, you still feel a little fuzzy and unclear on how you’ll get there.

How To Go From No Clarity to Lucid Living

The definition of the word lucid is: expressed clearly; easy to understand.

Clarity is crucial for so many things in business: from your products, your website navigation, to your communication. It all needs to be easy to understand, and easy for people to say yes to.

But if you’re muddled and confused, it’s going to be hard for you to get your point across clearly.

One of the ways that we stay stuck in confusion is by trying to do mental jumping jacks.

One of my favorite sayings is:

Getting your thoughts out on paper helps clear the brain cobwebs. Re-reading what you wrote will also tell you if you need to go deeper, make things more specific, or if you hit the jackpot.

It also helps to get feedback from peers and ideal customers. This is the magic ingredient that takes dreams and turns them into reality.

If someone else can’t understand what you wrote or doesn’t “get it”, don’t assume they’re wrong. Find the truth in their perspective and find out how you can more clearly explain and show the benefits of what it is you’re selling or providing.

Some of my best business decisions came out of feedback, and sometimes it hurt to take in someone’s negative comment but underneath my ego I could see that there was a kernel of useful information that I could apply to help other people “get it” more.

Now notice that all of this started with writing and then putting your writing in front of other people.

If your business isn’t on the web or writing isn’t your main form of communication, try other forms of creation.

Paint, draw, sing, speak, build, record, weave, code, dance, make…

You’ll find that when you’re in creation mode, your mind isn’t as loud and you’re not stuck in your thinking or doubting place anymore.

Things that bubble up to the surface will ring true and clear.

The feedback you get from the marketplace will give you signals that you can easily understand. You’ll know if you’re creating in the right direction, or if your creations need to be adapted to the current ecosystem that you’re operating in.

That’s when you’ll know you’ve crossed into the land of both the doer and the dreamer, and you’ll be on your way to lucid living.

I’ve found that sometimes if you’re unclear in one part of your life, it can spill over into other parts, too.

So if you’re having difficulties being clear in your business, try being more clear in your personal relationships or your health.

Or start with the place that’s easiest to get clear, and watch how clearing clutter or creating clear boundaries can turn into clearer communication and business ideas, too.

From Dreamer to Clarity Finder… Your turn!

Now I’d love to hear about your relationship to clarity. Do you feel like clarity is your friend, or do you need to cultivate a little more clarity still? Leave a comment below and let’s keep these comments lucid, shall we?


  1. Darris on September 24, 2014 at 11:08 am

    Excellent tips and something I needed to hear . . . there were times in my life that I’ve been crystal clear and accomplished a lot. One period was when on a whim we sold our house, bought 5 1/2 acres and decided to build a house. We bought a 29′ travel trailer to live on the property while we were building. It took 4 years to complete but I designed and we built my dream home. I’d been planning this house in my head and collecting pictures from magazines but I wasn’t clear about the design until I got out drafting paper and sketched it out. That was over 2 decades ago and besides my parenting values I don’t believe I’ve had that kind of clarity since. People talk of “vision boards” and journals and I did both for 40 years but stopped at some point when my first marriage crumbled after 26 years. Time to begin again. I can say from experience that vision boards and writing it down works to manifest your dreams and helps one to get clarity. Thanks for this Nathalie . . , Note: I’d love to see your hands when you’re talking. Cutting you off as in this video was distracting. Also, I personally could do without the flashing back and forth ~ for me that is also visually distracting. BTW, I love the red glasses on you!

    • Nathalie Lussier on September 24, 2014 at 5:10 pm

      So impressive Darris – love that you built your dream home, and it came to be from draft paper. And thank you so much for the video feedback, too! We’re always looking to improve. :)

  2. Leelo Bush PhD on September 24, 2014 at 11:31 am

    As a coaching course developer and trainer, I see people get stuck in the dreamer mode and I will refer your article. I think fear of others’ opinions holds a lot of people back. I am always grateful for opinions whether I like them or not because it helps me fine tune the offerings and consequently sell/earn more. Thanks for the great post.
    Leelo Bush

    • Nathalie Lussier on September 24, 2014 at 5:08 pm

      Absolutely Leelo, thanks so much – and glad this might come in handy. ;)

  3. Kathy Pine on September 24, 2014 at 12:11 pm

    Great advice! I am working on a new website and in the middle of trying to create my message. It’s amazing how helpful writing my own content has been in helping me create clarity. However, I still feel “unclear” and I think my copy might be unclear as well. Great idea to share my writing with friends and ask for feedback, sooner than later. Thank you!

    • Nathalie Lussier on September 24, 2014 at 5:08 pm

      You’re so welcome Kathy – can’t wait to see it all come to life!

  4. robin dudleyhowes on September 24, 2014 at 12:32 pm

    Natalie YOU are one of several keys to keeping me on track and clear! Ever since I found out and signed up for b school I would have to say your’e one the best things I got from the whole training. Your weekly consistent emails and quick bite size words of advice keep me accountable. Even if I can’t watch every episode you produce, the fact that you are so consistent reminds me to at least remember to be consistent, show up for my new business model and to grow. Another thing that keeps me focused and lucid are deadlines. Whether it be for an art show, workshop that I’m teaching, an article for a magazine, a goal on my calendar (writing does help), I need deadlines to keep myself accountable. As apart of the training for b-school we were encouraged to get an “accountability” partner and I did and it works! Thanks Natalie for your giving, heart felt advice. It really shines through and I really appreciate it!

    • Nathalie Lussier on September 24, 2014 at 5:07 pm

      Awww this makes me so happy. Thank you SO much for sharing, and I’m so proud and excited for you!

  5. Sasha Stone on September 24, 2014 at 2:09 pm

    Thank you for this Nathalie! This motivated me to schedule a meeting with my mastermind group asap, as I’m feeling kind of stuck and I know that vocalizing my ideas and concerns will help break open the flow. Also, what you said about feeling “unclear” in other areas of my life certainly applies. That same stuck energy is showing up in the relationship realm and I now is causing a disturbance elsewhere.

    • Nathalie Lussier on September 24, 2014 at 5:05 pm

      You can clear that up Sasha, I just know it. :) Excited for you!

  6. Licia Morelli on September 24, 2014 at 2:29 pm


    Such a great topic – clarity is such a key component to taking our dreams to reality.

    One tip I always give for creating clarity (and balance!) is to think of a three legged stool. Each leg represents projects and goals that will be the focus over the course of the next 2 weeks.

    All the legs need to be balanced to stay solid on the ground (and not tip!) so the key is when you start the first leg project – keep at it until the daily goal is completed and then set it aside and start working on the second leg, etc.

    For example my three legs currently are 1. Finish writing draft 2 of my book. 2. Finish writing my downloadable course outline. and 3. Make sure I’m carving out significant quality time with my family each day. From these three items I then give specific goals I want to achieve each day within them – for #1 I expect that I will spend 2 hours writing each day until it’s done, etc.

    I know as an entrepreneur I get bogged down with ideas and then can get stuck in my head as they all swirl around – but if I pick three ideas (and have a running list for all the other ideas that pop in to think on later) and stick to them to completion the organization and lucid living abounds!

    Thank you for this today – such a great reminder! xoxo

    • Nathalie Lussier on September 24, 2014 at 5:04 pm

      Awesome analogy Licia! The 3 legs and smaller steps within each make almost any big project or endeavor totally doable, I love it!

  7. Nora on September 24, 2014 at 3:44 pm

    Thanks for another great episode Nathalie.

    I’ve been following your advice on writing down everything that’s zooming in my head since your ‘Listen to your heart’ webinar. It’s been extremely helpful – and so simple too! Thanks to that, I’ve made more progress on my work (i.e. getting my website ready for the world) in the last 10 days than I had in the past 2 months. I’ll keeping using this technique even when I don’t feel confused because I think it’s also a great way to simply plan my work.

    Also, in the same vein as Licia’s advice, keeping a list of 5 goals for a certain period of time (yes, I got so much goodness out of that webinar :) is super helpful. Actually writing a list of our goals gives us clarity on what we want and having that list before our eyes every day helps us achieve them.

    • Nathalie Lussier on September 24, 2014 at 5:03 pm

      Yay Nora!! So happy to hear you enjoyed my Listen to Your Heart webinar – and more importantly that you’re getting results and making massive progress. Woohoo!

  8. Sharon on September 26, 2014 at 11:02 am

    Absolutely loved this video tip today, Nathalie! Great pointers. When I’m really clear on what I want, I go for it, no distractions, nothing fazes me. Unfortunately, I find it difficult to stay in this state all the time. Then I feel bummed out because I’m not accomplishing everything I want to do. I just realized that if I actually write out everything, I do much better. Great insight :-)

    • Nathalie Lussier on October 1, 2014 at 5:42 pm

      Yay so happy to hear that Sharon!

  9. Kat Bern on October 7, 2014 at 10:05 am

    To get more clear on what’s going on I’d say: take a bath, relax and then really ask yourself – what are your fears, what are your desires, what are your needs?

    You’d be surprised to see what a warm bathtub might to for a clear mind! :)